Here’s the recording of the Parenting from Abundance teleclass I offered recently. You can listen to it here. Or if you prefer to download the MP3 file, just enter your name and email in the form below and I’ll send you the link.
I loved this call since it taps into a topic that I am deeply passionate about and quite good at. You’ll hear quite a different perspective on parenting than the typical parenting experts out there. On this call I shared what I believe is THE single most important shift you can make to improve your relationship with your children. And this shift works whether your children are still in the womb or out of the nest. When you know this piece and begin applying it to your parenting, you will see immediate positive changes in your relationship with your children.
I’ll give you a hint: You have to let go of the belief that parenting is about raising healthy, well-adjusted children. They’ll do that just fine as long as we stay out of the way.
Healthy parenting is actually a much more selfish endeavor than that. I’ll explain why and how you can put this new perspective into practice on the call.
Take a listen, or, if you prefer to download the MP3 file, enter your name and email in the form below and I’ll send you the link.
Oh, and also enter your info below if you want me to let you know when I’m doing another parenting class. The response to this one has been amazing, so I’ll most likely be doing more.
Thanks for pointing out the benefits of realizing when we’re being “triggered” by our children we can stop & think about it in a new ways that allow us learn more about ourselves (from our children : – ).
You’re very welcome Diane. That’s a tough one, but when you get it, you’ll be amazed at how much peaceful your home will be!
I, too, am adopted and have found my relationship with my biological mother to be complex, difficult, and sometimes painful. I am probably in need of healing—or at least MORE healing—as is she.
There are a host of other factors that add murkiness to my particular situation. With adolescence came depression. Despite a multitude of treatments, it has improved at times, but never really left. And now, as I move into my fifties, I’ve become unable to work and receive a small disability pension from Social Security.
In addition, I have issues concerning fathers. My biological father denied I was his child and I’ve never met him or known anyone (other than my biological mother) who has. To make matters worse, my adopted Mom (a great aunt—in many senses of the word) was 53 and her husband (my adopted Dad) was 59 when I was born. When I reached 5 years of age, Dad had a blackout and could no longer work. A series of heart problems and strokes caused him to gradually decline during the remaining 18 years of his life, eventually becoming almost totally bedfast and mostly senile. He died while I was in college. I often felt that my biological mother was the only person who truly loved me, though she never understood who I really was and was overprotective and babied me too much. I offered her what support I could with Dad and helped her cope after he passed on. She loved me and gave me a home to return to until I got married, passing on herself a couple of years afterward.
Edward, I appreciate your willingness to share the fact that you are adopted with us. I believe this could be an issue you’re in a unique position to address in a way which the world needs desperately to hear now. Obviously, anything you have to say about how children that have been given up for adoption can heal and reconnect with their biological parents would be appreciated by me personally. But today more and more people, including many famous one, are coming out and admitting they are adopted.
Dave Thomas, founder of Wendy’s restaurant chain used his fame and fortune to create a foundation to support adoption. Bill Clinton, our 42nd president was adopted. And, while they have not been without controversy, high profile celebrities like Madonna and Angelina Jolie, among others, have adopted children and brought much attention to the subject. A multitude of other factors have also come into play, resulting in what I presume has been a great increase in the number of adoptions occurring in our country. The end result is that more and more people are going to be struggling with these issues.
People with the integrity, goodness, and love that emanates so brightly from you, Edward, as well as the wisdom, creativity, and uniqueness of your knowledge, experience, and ideas are desperately needed in many places. But I don’t know of any place where you would better serve than teaching biological parents, adopted parents, and adopted children how to confront their issues, establish loving bonds, and interact in healing ways that will increase their sense of belonging and family, and generate more of the most important force in the universe: Love.
I hope you will at least think about what I’ve said. I know we must each find and walk our own path and perhaps yours will lead in another direction. If so, I will respect that, though I must tell you, I will certainly feel some regret at possibilities lost. Still, I enjoyed the Abundant Mystic Teleseminar Series and your initial parenting call and look forward to more enjoyment, education, and enlightenment as I continue to follow your work wherever it may lead. Thank you so much, Edward, for being who you are and doing what you’re doing to make the world a better place.
Phillip
Thank you so much for the sharing, the encouragement and the not-so-subtle nudge!
I have often thought about the possibility of creating something for the members of the adoption triad. I was actually writing a book on my journey through the blessed entanglements that have emerged as a result of my adoption.
So it is definitely something that I would consider. And right now, I’m very open to following my guidance. If that’s a direction I am guided to follow, I will look forward to having you join me on the ride!
Thanks again.
Edward
Hi Ed, loved this call and I am not even a parent, but even I am dealing with kids, nephews and nieces, kids in the neighborhood and I think it is even more important for us to know how to deal with them, because we do not have any experience at all.
So I will be listening in on your next advices too.
Thanks a lot for this.
As I read back through my comment above, I saw an error that I REALLY want to correct. In the third paragraph (which appears to be the second paragraph because I evidently forgot to skip a line after the short line ending with “social security”) I made a mistake that distresses me. I said that I often felt that my BIOLOGICAL mother was the only person who really loved me; I meant to say that my ADOPTED mother was the only person who loved me. While my biological mother may have, I want to be darn sure that the woman I call Mom, who took me in and sacrificed for me and put up with all my shenanigans, gets the credit she deserves.